I often feel quite adversarial about my writing: the plot doesn’t cooperate; my characters aren’t interesting; my structure is running away from me and I’m chasing hopelessly after calling “inciting incident, come back here this instant!”

If I were, instead, to nurture my idea, feed it, be patient with it, sit still with it: what would that look like? How would that work? Is there a part of my process that is already nurturing, and can I build on that?